What To Talk About On A First Date

You can spot a couple on a first date from a billion miles away. Two reasonably dressed individuals sitting at a coffee table, occasionally making eye contact. She looks nervous and maybe a little awkward. He’s fidgeting a little bit and looking at the coffee menu.

They both scan the room, they both smile at their surroundings, and the biggest clue of all?

They engage in mild small talk.

Him: So. How’s your mocha frappuccino?

Her: Pretty good! How’s your plain black coffee?

Him: Not bad!

More awkward silence ensues. More jittering and needless smiling occurs.

Ugh. First dates can be stressful and unpleasant, depending on who you’re having the date with. And sometimes when you’re getting to know someone, you feel like you really can’t be yourself because you’re worried about what the other person will think about you. First impressions count in this world and we all know it.

But it doesn’t have to be this one. Frankly, I love first dates. Why? Because you get to discover something new and it’s fun interacting with somebody that you don’t really know too well, but it’s always difficult to find the right things to talk about. In this article, I’ll outline a few great conversation topics and questions that will surely turn that date into a potential love interest.

Try talking about these things…

1.) Favorite movie of all time? Why?

2.) Any pet peeves?

3.) What kind of kid were you? 

4.) What’s your life goal?

5.) Do you have any role models?

6.) Have any nicknames? And how did you get them?

7.) What’s your idea of an ideal weekend?

8.) If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would that place be and why?

9.) Tell me about your past travels.

10.) What do you hate about dating? Tell me so I can avoid doing that!

These are great conversation starters. However, there are some topics that you want to avoid as well.

Try avoiding talking about politics and religion. These are two topics that can be super sensitive to people. Those are topics that should be brought up much later in the dating process.

You should also avoid talking about work. Anything to do with the mundane, the boring, and the sensitive should generally be avoided.

5 Ways to Be a Sexier & More Confident Date

Confidence is one of the sexiest things about a woman. It shows that she has other character traits that men love -- the ability to stand up for herself, empowerment, good looks, and sassiness. Not only that, but confident women embrace their assertiveness over their own sexuality -- and they know what they want.

Confidence is knowing that you're worth a lot and that you have value to add. It's a deep feeling of certainty about who you are and what you stand for.

But dating, especially after a divorce or break-up, can leave women with their confidence shaken to the core. Sometimes being confident is easier said than done.

Here are some tips for being confident while dating.

Remember, comfortable is not the same as confident. To be empowered, you must get in touch with your innermost self and learn to feel certain about who you are and what you stand for. This can pull you squarely out of the "I guess he's good enough" rut and into a relationship you deserve.

Start small. The more confidence you have in a single area of your life (For example: I am excellent at snowboarding), the more it will seep into other areas of your life. It's hard to look at the big picture and say, "I WILL be confident in ALL of these things." So start small, build that confidence.

Fake it until you make it. Sometimes, the very act of approaching a great guy, or making eyes at someone, or taking that first step into dating, can create a cascade effect. The more you do it, the easier it'll become. And the more confident you'll become about doing it again.

Channel your inner diva. If you're feeling like you're blowing a first date, think of your favorite diva and how SHE would react. Pretty soon, that inner diva will be you.

Smile. There's very little sexier than a killer smile. It's your first impression, and it's likely to last a long time.